Do you ever get signs from God? Most of us have at one time or another. They can be difficult to recognize sometimes. My wife has told me that the first time she saw me we were at an Acapulco restaurant. She thought I was cute. The sad thing is I don’t remember that meeting. I wasn’t there for her. I was there to meet another girl. However, a few months later we were introduced officially. We would talk for hours on the phone. A few times after we talked for hours, I would drive 30 mins one way to where she lived just to put a note on her car to say I was thinking about her. We would watch the tv show “Mad About You” separately and then call each other on the phone during the commercials and say how much the other person was like one of the characters on that show. We still enjoy that show to this day. We dated for about 6 months before I proposed and we were married about 6 months after that. But my proposal was a little backwards. To tell you the truth, I knew I wanted to marry her right after we started dating. We talked about marriage a few times. Then we finally decided to have “The Talk”. We decided one Sunday afternoon that we should get married. We went to a local jewelry store and Clarissa picked out a ring. I called my mom from a pay phone (this was before we had cell phones) and told her we were going to visit her to talk about something. I got back into my car, outside an Office Max where the pay phone was and I proposed. That’s right. I better had put a ring on it before I dared ask “Officially”. What if she would have said no.
Any ways, I had to ask her grandma permission to marry her granddaughter. I guess they had planned this because when I asked her, she said “NO.”. I was a little in shock until she started to laugh. Ah, haha, I see. They set me up. Funny. She said yes after they had a good chuckle.
So we did the normal wedding planning and all. We went to pre-marital counseling with our pastor. And finally, the big day had arrived. You all know the story of how a wedding day is supposed to go… It has to have something go wrong. Like hollywood-movie-wrong. Well guess what, it did. At 2:46am we had a typical Southern California earthquake. That’s right, an earthquake. My grandma woke me up informing me of this earth-shaking (pun intended) event. I told her it was no big deal and to go back to bed. It was no big deal to me, only a 7.1 on the Richter scale.
My bride-to-be had a different reaction. She FREAKED OUT! That’s right. Not so much because she was scared of the earthquake (although she was) but more so because she thought it was a sign from God that we should NOT get married. She knew that’s why he summoned that quake that morning. Well, she ignored her instinct and married me anyways. Our pastor said it was probably the most earth-shaking wedding anyone had ever attended (again, pun intended) and the rest of the day went well.
Now, almost 14 years, 3 kids, a 10 year Coast Guard career, and about a dozen moves later, we’re still married and going strong. The point of this trip down memory lane is that I’m glad she didn’t go with her feelings that morning and take the earthquake as a sign from God not to marry me. Feelings can be tricky. They’re useful and helpful in so many areas of our lives, but to rely solely on them is dangerous. Be mindful of your feelings but make sure you’re making decisions using wisdom, counsel from others, reading your bible, and praying. Your “feeling” might be that taco you ate last night or maybe your fear of the unknown (like when you interpret a certain natural California phenomenon as a sign from God). You never know!
Question: Have you ever misinterpreted a sign from God? Please leave a comment below.